Yesterday I wrote about the gains we’ve experienced by using Jason’s B batteries intentionally. Today I’ll talk about all the things we do to make recovery possible, no matter which batteries he is using.
Sleep became key in Jason’s first year of recovery – a fact that we didn’t fully understand until the OT we hired to work with us privately had us keep activity journals and made note of how many hours he seemed to sleep for us to have a good day. Early in our time with her she asked us to have Jason get 10 hours of sleep a night, plus an hour nap, plus an hour wind down time before bed.
Until you do that math and realize that’s 12 HOURS in bed per day!
Do you know how much you can do in 12 hours?!?
Do you know how much my husband does in 12 hours? This was a man that slept maybe 6-7 hours a night if I made him. We were going to lose at least 5 hours of working time in Jason’s life per day. You know how people are usually saying they could get their to do list done if they had an extra hour or two in a day? WE WENT THE OTHER WAY. TIMES FIVE.
I say this not for sympathy, but so that if you are in this position, trying to decide if you can make your sleep requirement work for you, you know that we get it. We have been there and we hated it and that’s okay. The truth is you can’t afford not to meet your sleep requirement.
Here are some of the things Jason gave up for sleep:
- serving on two volunteer community groups
- website design for himself and family and volunteer groups
- nights with the guys
- late night television
- going into work 5 days a week (an hour commute each way plus a full day in the office meant he was never home)
- early morning workouts
- dinners with friends that start after 6pm
Obviously I did not need to adapt Jason’s new sleep routine but for us it was important to have something normal in our relationship. So we decided to go to bed together and then I just wake up early and have the house to myself for a few hours in the morning. There were still changes
- I couldn’t work late if I wanted dinner with my husband
- I lost my workout buddy (Jason)
- I had to take on more around the house because I had more hours in the day
If you’re faced with this decision I really encourage you to whine about it, and rant about it, and then make the changes and get your sleep. Even looking at our sacrifices listed out, it was still the smartest decision we made this year.